Tuesday, September 30, 2014

#curvesarethenewskinny #curvesareheretostay

Dear Diary,

I am so fed up with the way America thinks I need to look. I do love that it is finally being made known that women don't have to be a size 2 to be beautiful, but I worry for the sake of teenage girls who see these stick figures walking down the run way or in the magazines and think they must look like that to be beautiful. Look at Kim Kardashian, look at Nicki Minaj, look at Jennifer Lopez and Iggy Azalea. Absolutely beautiful women who all have curves. Who all take the time to work out and eat healthy but not dwell on being so skinny. It is a disease to want to be like that. I mean I don't want to look like this.
That is so unhealthy. Ok, so yeah, maybe I wont ever get to walk the catwalk in Milan or get to go back stage and meet a whole bunch of celebrities at New York Fashion week but when I live to the age of 115 and the girl with the eating disorder lives to the age of 40, I think I will be ok with that. Women shouldn't have to be forced to look like that to be able to do something they love. There are a few Victoria Secret models who actually care more about the way they look than the skinny models. Take Adriana Lima for instance. One of the most beautiful women in the world but instead of being a stick figure, she actually has a body. She has curves and lines and doesn't let media change her.
 There is also another VS model I love and that is Doutzen Kroes and even though what she looks like in real life and how they make her on paper is different, I still love that she promotes a healthy life style. I found a picture of her photo shopped by VS
 and what she actually looks like

She is beautiful and natural, the way a women should look. That is to say I am not one to go without makeup or dress in sweats everyday. I do still love to fix myself and look good but I do it for myself and my husband, not social media. Not hoping a modeling scout is walking by and just has to have me. I mean if that happened that would be cool, but I am 5'5, 135lbs so the likeliness of that happing is not likely.
Another thing that really pisses me off, is the fact that plus size women, start at a size 10. I'm sorry, Marilyn Monroe was a size 10 and how gorgeous was she!!!!! A size 10 is healthy, not plus size. And what is plus sized anyways...why cant they just be a size. Why must we segregate them into being plus. Why can't they be called extra beauty models or you can actually hold on to me at night models?

Dove did this campaign where they brought in real women, not models to promote their line. And I loved it. Seeing actual women on the TV than a paid supermodel. Actually being able to relate to body issues than think I am not perfect and why don't I look like that.
Now please don't get me wrong, I am not here to promote eating like shit and expecting to look good. I am simply saying that when we as girls look up to something, it should be something worth looking up too. Not something that is going to hurt us. Demi Lovato is a great example. She use to have an eating disorder, got down to 88lbs at 17 years old, checked herself into rehab and has never looked better. I would want my daughter to take Demi's experience and learn from that. Learn what not to do and how gorgeous Demi looks today.
Another thing that bothers me so much is photo shop. Drives me crazy. How they can take someone and completely change them just to make them look "perfect". Everyone has flaws...why cant we promote imperfections and loving ourselves for who we are.

I love Ellen. I love her for so many reasons but she talked about this one day on her show last year. Target did an ad with a young lady in a swimsuit. They photo shopped so bad, that she looked fake. The made her arms longer and cut a huge section out where her whoo-ha should be. She went on to interview the girl (who came out wearing plastic arms, it was awesome) and this girl inspired my girl Meghan Trainor to write "All About that Bass".

Sorry if it seems I am carrying on and on but it really bothers me that girls have to feel this way. I actually use to suffer from anorexia myself. Back in junior high, I would eat very little and run a lot. I got down to an incredibly small weight, to the point where a few teachers noticed it. I had stomach issues (had them my whole life, didn't know it was Gluten) that made me go on this diet of chicken and salad and water. So when I would eat, it was that. I got boobs early in life as well and they were embarrassing. So I did everything I could to make them go away. Then I hit high school and realized that the way I was living and what I was doing was not healthy nor the way to go. Plus, I realized boobs got you attention so I stopped hiding myself in the corner. I was extremely shy so blending into the wall was easier for me. I still struggle with it today. Luckily I married a man who likes to be the center of attention and knows when I get uncomfortable and will draw the attention on himself. And I luckily have a man who loves curves. Every women should find a man that loves their body for what is it. Exercise and eating healthy is a need in order to maintain a healthy body and mind. But eating the occasional burger and fries or splurging on pizza or going out with friends and having a few cocktails is why we eat healthy and workout, so we can have fun like that. Food doesn't have to be the enemy, photo shop and people who require girls to look like a pencil should be the enemy.
Rant over! Thanks Diary
Love, Me